Often we try to change people to meet our standards. This is the same as trying to get people to be more like us.
You want your spouse to do more of this and less of that. But have you thought of the consequences?
If your partner did everything you do then you would have nothing to
contribute. And a feeling of dissatisfaction is bound to arise from that.
So maybe when he/she keeps on doing that thing you always talk about but it doesn’t seem to change…maybe that thing comes naturally for you and is your gap to fill.
We don’t mind doing what comes naturally to us anyway. It’s just when we question why others aren’t doing the same that we stumble.